Cancer & The Final Journey Of Life

The word CANCER is the most dreadful word anyone would like to hear from their doctors. It was so scary and painful to most patients and their families. I am not a doctor for this topic but I have met so many patients. I consoled them, hugged them, fed them and fetched them everywhere in my car.

It all started in the year 2005 when my wife who has been a long time volunteer with Hospice Malaysia asked me to help her fetch a male cancer patient for blood transfusions one morning. He was bed ridden and my wife could not carry him up with both hands. I went along that morning to fetch the Chinese man called Andy. My heart sank when I saw him which looked like a bag of bones lying on his bed beside his Indian wife and pretty 6 year old daughter. I promptly carried him up gently and he tried very hard not to cry as his whole body was in agonizing pain. He was suffering from last stage of bone marrow cancer.

There was no turning back and Andy became my weekly friend where I had to fetch him to hospital for almost 2 years before he went to rest comfortably in heavens. I became active volunteer with Hospice and they assigned all their cancer patients in the entire Puchong, Cheras and other KL areas up to Putrajaya to me. My job was to fetch them all for various chemo treatments weekly at various hospitals in Klang Valley using my own transport and petrol. I was trained to handle them as many could barely walk properly. I was also told what not to speak with them - No Religions, No Politics, No Medicals, No MLM.... all these sensitive topics were forbidden unless the patient wished to speak them up.



Eventually, I became very famous after the full page articles appeared in Sin Chew Newspaper. Many people were touched and very moved to see the only "Husband & Wife" team doing this with Hospice. I learnt a lot about life and deaths after meeting so many friendly patients who shared all their happiness, sadness and regrets before going to better places. There were many sad cases where the patients had adult working children but they had no time for their parent's hospital visits. Never mind all that - Life is just a journey for everyone of us. 

"Let's live happily and healthily from now on."


When a patient is diagnosed with the last Stage 4 of cancer, the doctors would often recommend them to get in touch with Hospice which is a NGO located in Cheras. Here, they will be able to receive palliative care from a team of professional doctors, nurses and volunteers at no cost!! They could even loan the special beds, wheel chairs and any other equipments. If they are mobile, they would attend the weekly day care sessions.


Many patients from all races and age came to the weekly day care. They were fed with most delicious meals provided by the kind & caring volunteers besides getting their exercises and massages. The doctors and nurses also checked their progress on the spot. All the patients changed eventually with positive mind and happier hearts. Many lived very much longer than what their doctors had numbered.



The patients gathered around a Physiotherapist who explained the little games they would be playing.




They always enjoyed light exercise activities where they could move all their limbs and keep the blood circulation moving.


I always saluted the volunteers who appeared like God's angels sent from heavens to care and walk the final journey with the patients. They would go all out to cook all the most exotic food and sinful desserts for the patients to enjoy.






Many wealthy individuals would cook 5-Star gourmet food and delivered to the centre specially for the patients. There are many good and kind hearted care givers like them who preferred to be quiet and unknown. There is no need to crow on the trees for every little things that I have done. Please understand that I am here to share and create awareness about Hospice Care at my own accord.

We all know somebody who had suffered from cancer and seen the sufferings the whole family went through. If you ever meet someone again who might need help, please contact Hospice in KL or nearby your home state.

If you wish to live longer, I believe that we must exercise regularly and keep our body happy and stress-free! STRESS KILLS very fast and it would trigger all our cells to react negatively causing heart diseases and cancer.

My own motto:
1. Eat Healthily
2. Be Happy
3. Watch Movies
4. Exercise Daily
5. Go for Massage

My wife has signed up with the coming Standard Chartered's KL Marathon to raise funds for Hospice Malaysia. Please support and donate any amount to help them provide every care to the terminally ill patients. Even RM 2 or RM5 or RM10 would be greatly appreciated. We will not be able to know who the donors are or the amount donated, except the total raised anonymously by the runners. PLEASE HELP & click HERE  


 Thank you for reading!


Comments

  1. aiyaaa... now i know why u so stress but i think ur travelling can make u stress free also right? I think it needs a really strong compassion for you to volunteer in this :)

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    1. Kikikikiki....Clever munkey! (I like this name)

      My wife is the one who gets stressed often by many of her monkey students.

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    2. lol! i think u need to give her a massage... just like what ur motto says :P

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  2. Wahhhhh!!!!! Pat on the back, you and your missus for volunteering. Very often, it is so hard to get volunteers - like the centre for special children here.

    My daughter went to teach for free while waiting for her posting and people started condemning her, said the centre has political inclinations. True, a politician donated to the building of the whole centre and pays the salaries of the permanent staff - but out of his own goodwill and he never made it known publicly. I did not know it myself until these bitchy people started bitching. My daughter could not understand why people are like that - the special kids there need volunteers, lots of them as the permanent staff cannot handle so many but this is how the minds of the local folks work. Sad, real sad!!!

    There is no centre here for cancer patients but we do have the Sibu Kidney Foundation which depends on charity too to subsidise their expenses...and again, people pointed fingers. The dialysis is not cheap and the patients cannot afford and if people are willing to donate, why not? Never mind whether the centre is right wing-linked or left wing, the patients would be happy if their burden may be eased to some extent - sometimes, I feel these people are really a bit too much.

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    1. It is very common to hear some NGO and charitable organizations having other motives in collecting funds until fingers started pointing and tongues wagged. Politicians would also troop in when they smell a nice stone for them to perch, the list goes on.

      Your daughter had so kindly offered her heart and time to help yet she bumped into some ugly truths out there - That is really sad. It is a blessing and lessons learnt for her so that she knows the reality of human beings today. She will become successful with her doting & hawk-eyed father's support. Sibu is a growing town and someday the Hospice care will start when the time is right. There are kidney failure and cancer patients everywhere!

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  3. Good luck in the marathon. They do not give a card for you to go round and collect donations? Me, old man, old school...so scared of this online thing lah. I'd rather send a cheque...like to those Hand & Mouth Artists. They send me cards regularly, not cheap...but it's for charity. I don't mind chipping in to help out, not at all, so I send them a cheque for the cards.

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    1. Yo! Please help lah brother! Just click online like how you book your air tickets and it is SAFE ok. Sell your 1 tin of Ham to a neighbour for RM10 and donate RM3 will do. Pleaseeeeeeee Sibu Food Mayor, DONATE! DONATE! DONATE! DONATE! DONATE! DONATE! Kam Siah & Gong Ter Woo Liang!

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    2. I pass you the cash when I go to KL...and then you donate online on my behalf, can?

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    3. Sure I want!!! Thank you BOSS!! We will meet you on Friday!

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    1. Woiii Doctor, please help to DONATE! DONATE! DONATE! DONATE! DONATE!

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  5. wow, that's a great job~ guess i shouldn't be so negative about life. in fact, i shall appreciate the things i had. thanks for keep reminding~

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    1. Yeah please wake up and hopefully don't be an Emo Queen again. Live your life to the fullest ok.

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  6. I'm quite sure there's a special place in heaven - all the heavens of all the religions! - for individuals who provide financial and especially practical assistance to the less fortunate.

    Cancer *is* scary. That, and Alzheimer's.

    My motto?

    Be happy. It's a decision.
    Walk every day.
    Read a book every day.
    Eat chocolate every day. :D

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    1. Eat chocolate every day, yay! I agree~~

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    2. Rurousha - I agree that the heavens is the same place for all and so is hell. I love chocolates and ice cream very much!!!!!

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  7. So ngam geh, I just recently read an article on hospice myths, but can't remember where!

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    1. These articles always appear again and again. Hey please DONATE! DONATE! DONATE! DONATE! DONATE!

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  8. I will chip in money with Ah Hua and bank in the money to Hospice Malaysia. Thanks Anay for sharing this, telling this, allowing me to do charity.

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    1. Breast cancer took my mom away from me when I was 17. since then, I fear for cancer, especially breast cancer. Not all can afford to remove the breast and implant the breast again like Angelina Jolie.

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    2. This post warms my heart, Letchumi and Anay are indeed kind hearted. May you both bless with good healthy and longevity.

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    3. Like your motto, I did all the top 4 and except go for massage. Time isn't permitted for my busy schedule.

      Anay, you must sleep early, enough sleep is rather important to stay healthy.

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    4. My motto,

      Be helpful
      Be grateful
      Be happy
      Stay active
      Love

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    5. A BIG THANK YOU VERY MUCH to Yannie and Yvonne!! Tomorrow is Wesak Day and your merits will multiply 10,000 times! Thank you again for your kind wishes too!

      Your motto is very good esp LOVE! This LOVE actions, many could sadly not do.

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  9. It's a good cause. Thanks for reminding me to donate and help the needy.

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    1. LOL. I think you have been doing charity and WENNderful deeds whole year by sharing kindness and giving Freebies to many people from all races!

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  10. I've never volunteered but my upmost respect to those who do.

    But I am a donor for MAKNA & National Kidney Foundation plus support CARIF and I hope my measly contribution will help.

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    1. I've never volunteered, too. Just a monthly donor to MAKNA but I hope I will start to do volunteer job soon, when my children are not so attached to me.

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    2. It is okay that you may not have time to volunteer now. I believe you guys will help anyone anytime anywhere. That is good enough. Being a monthly donor is big merits too!

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  11. Anay,
    You and Letchumi look very different in the newspaper and when I saw you last time.

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    1. I agree and laughed at ourselves! It was 8 years ago and I was damn unhealthy then. I have changed and pay attention to my well being everyday.

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  12. Anay,
    My friend who passed away recently got assistance from Hospice. I am very grateful to Hospice for that.

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    1. When I posted this article in my blog, I remembered about your friend and wondered if Hospice had helped her in anyway. I am so glad they did!!!
      So please do charity by advising any terminally ill patients to get in touch with Hospice (They just need a reference letter from doctors)

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  13. Annay in the newspaper! So femes!

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  14. We do not have any Hospice service in our hometown here. But there are many volunteer nurses who extend their hands helping cancer patients. The patients stay at home and the nurses come visiting to their house, offering advises and medicine.

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    1. Cancer is a dreadful word. Everyone is afraid of it. My motto is very simple, "Live life simple", hahaha!

      I believe by leading a simple life, we tend to be happier :)

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    2. I agree with your motto - Live Live Simple!! No wonder most Taiping people are healthy and long lives. No wonder they don't need a Hospice centre there at all.

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  15. Mak datuk oi...I cannot recognise you la

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    1. sad to say I have lost a few people from cancer too

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    2. Good thig that you are doing there.

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    3. Woii this Small Kucing tak buka mata. Anay so big sized then! I knew that I had to change for better healthy lifestyle.

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  16. You both husband & wife got a big great heart Saddhu Saddhu Saddhu..Happy Wesak!

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    1. I think many couples and individuals are helping more than us. We are learning from others.

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  17. Ooops sorry double comments..Run Cheah Hew Mee Run Good luck!

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    1. She has been training very hard, walking the whole Mont Kiara and Damansara Heights always.

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  18. I m very sad when I see cancer ppl suffering
    I got few relatives dies of cancer
    Annay I m proud of you for helping those in need

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    1. Kuku Bird should go out to help others la. Don't just go to Cititel to get help.

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  19. Thanks for sharing your experiences mate...

    Both my grandfathers (maternal and paternal) died of lung cancer due to smoking and my mom has lung cancer too (small cell - not related to smoking).

    I guess we're genetically predisposed and I can see how it affects her and it's really sad.

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    1. I am sure your mum will recover with the given care and treatments. Stay strong Buddy! I am still waiting for your email address.

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    2. Thanks buddy!

      My email is sixthseal@gmail.com - hope to hear from you soon!

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  20. oh thats cool.. i am actually eager to participate in such kind of activity... but maybe in some Home for the aged and not in hospital and cancer patient..it will definitely torn me apart and break me to tears if i see them.. :(

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    1. It is good that you have good intentions to help out somewhere. Not everyone is brave to be near the dying ones, so just carry out whichever way you are comfortable to help out.

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  21. I am touch with the kind and generous heart of you and your wife have towards the society.

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    1. I could not ignore their plights then.

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  22. Stumbled upon your blog & I'm impressed with your blog. My father-in-law lost to cancer just couple of yrs ago, & my bro-in-law is now suffering from stage 4 cancer, so I can understand the sentiments of the family members. Kudos to u for volunteering & I'm so glad to be here. I'm following u now at GFC & would love to have u follow me too :) All the best!

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    1. Thanks for coming to my blog. I am sorry to hear about your father in law and now, brother in law. I hope he will stay strong.

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  23. My grandma just passed away due to cancer a month ago.
    Actually my house is very near Hospis Malaysia, the flat there. Planned to send her there when I noticed that she couldn't eat anymore after discharged from hospital but she passed away a while later.

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    1. I am sorry to hear about your grandma. I am sure she is in better place now without any sufferings. So you live near to Hospis! You can bake them cakes and cook dishes sometimes to make patients happy. Why not??

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  24. life is indeed precious but it will not be meaningful if we are not positive and not facing it optimistically..

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    1. You are so correct Ah Boy. I always remind myself everyday to be positive, happy and lead a meaningful life.

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  25. i salute your friend to take his remaining life so positively, and even salute anay more to keep him company to walk the rest of his journey.. kudos to anay and letchumi!! you will sure have good karma for all the good deeds.. :)

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    1. It was not easy to be his friend but he woke me up to the reality of lives. It is no bed of roses and everyone falls sick & die someday. How sad Thambee!

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  26. "Let's live happily and healthily from now on.".. yes, i totally agree with this.. stay healthy and stay happy, life may be too unpredictable for us, and we may not know what's happening the next minute.. that is why we should choose to live a happy and healthy life.. and that is why, we can see Anay looks even better now than last time, he is radiating more good chi as compared to that in the newspaper in the photo.. :)

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    1. Adoi mulut manis Thambee!!! I can radiate meh??? I hope to have sweet life like you!!

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  27. Anay you are definitely one of the most generous and kindest blogger friends i have ever known.. i started knowing Anay from all his spooky stories, and the next thing i know Anay was all his charity and good deeds.. you will sure reincarnate to become a very happy Prince in your next life.. :)

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    1. How nice I can be a happy Prince!!! I think by the time I reincarnate, the world would have become a republic!!!

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  28. I just stumbled into this blog and I must admit that I am totally awed by all the post you have written!! I enjoy reading your beautiful posts and thought we may share the same interest in the topics we blog about. I have already added you and hope you will also drop by my blog and create a back link to each other. The URL to my blog is as follow http://sk0617.blogspot.com/. Have a great day!! :)

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  29. Salute to both of you & wifey !

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  30. I'm glad with what Anay & Letchumi did so far. Both of you are very kind and generous.

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    1. Thank you. I am sure everyone has some charity hearts too.

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  31. If I have time.... I don't mind spend my time helping them too.

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    1. Well, we have to make the time somewhere.

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  32. Money isn't all... they also need our care and love for them.

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    1. It is true. Money is not that important and cannot buy the care and love for them.

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  33. nice writeup here..
    nice meeting up with you too yesterday! Y U NO LIKE ME! hahaha :P

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