In Memory Of My Dearest Mother
My dearest mother has breathed her last at dawn on Monday.
She has finally been called to the land of eternity,
away from the sufferings of our human realms.
It has been four months since she returned home to rest after getting discharged from Sime Darby Medical Centre (SDMC). We have been nursing and caring for her with the best available care with the special home visit & check-ups by the nurses and doctors of Hospice, which gave her much hope that she could recover someday. My mother was not aware that she had lung cancer which collapsed one side of her lung. I am thankful to the heavens for blessing her with no pain until the end.
I am always very proud of my mother for her kindness and intelligence. She was enrolled into the prestigious Chulalongkorn University at the mere age of 15 which was a rare honour as she passed all the entrance exams. She met my father in Penang while pursuing her studies in LCCI and they had a whirlwind romance with many happy memories. They finally married 11 years later when my grandfather had to give in after his stern objections that she was going to marry a poorer man. Both my parents had a good married life and they never quarreled even once! I know it is unbelievable but true. They had faced many life's problems along the way and my mother had a quick temper but my dad has no temper. Yes, he has ZERO temper! How to fight with him when he has NO TEMPER??
I believe I inherited 50%+ of his calmness.
I clearly knew my mother's days were numbered as she faded gradually and braved myself to be mentally prepared. I often shared advice with my older siblings who were a bit afraid & paranoid to hear anything about death. My years helping the terminally ill patients at Hospice Care has greatly helped to toughen me about our journey of Life & Death which everyone has to face someday. My dear wifey is the toughest and supported me along to prepare ahead all the funeral preparations for months, days and hours before the reality set in. It has been written in Buddhism texts on the way and prayers to be conducted on one's demise which I had always remembered by hard.
My wife cleansed my mother, changed her clothes and applied serene make ups on her. She sat down calmly beside my mother and softly recited the whole thick sutra book of Di Zang Wang Boddhisatva to calm & guide my mother's emerging soul which would normally take 6 to 9 hours for the departed ones.
We had decided to give my mother a good and beautiful send off where the wake was held at the Nirvana Memorial Centre. It was a short notice sent out that the wake would be held for just 2 nights. I highly applaud and compliment the whole team of Managers and staff of the Nirvana Memorial Centre for providing their best professional service to assist the bereaved families with utmost respect to our loved ones who have passed on.
Their team put in great efforts to ensure that every meticulous details have been well taken care besides going all out to help us to invite Thai and Sri Lankan monks to conduct the final rites. It was very tough for us to seek the blessing & availability of these few monks in KL but the Nirvana team solved our worries! My late mother's wish was fulfilled eventually.
Most of my generation of Thai relatives had flown in from Thailand to pay their last respects. They had very busy schedules of lifestyle and came for just a day trip. It really moved our hearts to tears to see their love and respect for my late mother. She has been a great aunt and often showered her love & concern for all of them. I was not wearing a coat above as my old father was alseep and shivering from the freezing air cond. I had to cover him with my jacket.
It is the funeral traditions of Thailand where all the Thai males have to wear suits and ladies in full black dress with make ups and jewelery to pay their respects and honour the departed. You will see this practice in Bangkok and other bigger cities.
Whatever we requested, the team at Nirvana would oblige wholeheartedly! We wanted to accord my mother the funeral rites of her native Thailand. Many unexpected friends showed up and that touched me a lot. All our close friends and relatives were well taken care of by their Nirvana's team of ushers, F&B servers and administration office, throughout the 3 days and 2 nights.
Their team really engaged Burmese florists to decorate the flowers in accordance with the Thai funerals. I could not ask for more and really could not thank them enough!!
I may be sad today but I am eternally grateful to my mother for giving me all her time and unconditional love. She has shown me the way to live this life in a meaningful way.
Yesterday was the 7th day of my mother's departure. My good friends flew to Taipei with my mother's particulars to attend this huge praying and deliverance ceremony at the Sun Yat Sen Memorial, which was presided by The Living Buddha Lian-Sheng who conducted the deliverance and chantings with hundreds of monks and few thousand devotees from worldwide. They united together in prayers to deliver all the departed souls to the Western Paradise.
Rest In Peace Mother
Rest In Peace Mother