My Birthday 2016 - A Quiet Affair

Every year, all my life, I have been blessed with birthday gatherings with family and friends that could last 3 nights and 2 weekends. It is not that I am so popular or famous but just that I have been doing that as an excuse to catch up with close buddies. We all needs friends to be happy and supportive with each other through thick and thin, till our old age (If I do reach that age)

This year was the first time, I had no celebrations actually as the mourning period of my late mum has not reached one year. I strictly observe the importance of mourning our parents. That would be that for whole year, one should never attend big auspicious gatherings like weddings, birthdays, house warmings and even baby's full moon parties. This is in adhere with the known facts of the Law of Universe and not mere taoism beliefs. Many folks misunderstood this matter.

I have personally witnessed a closed relative whose family are staunch Christians. They do not have beliefs in choosing dates and my cousin married just on a random date to suit their convenience. It was held in a Grand Ballroom of a 5 Star hotel in Kuala Lumpur. So many VVIPs attended as my uncle was a well connected man. Right after the wedding dinner, he was taken ill and was rushed to the hospital where he died soon after. The whole family was in a grief, shock and disbelief to come to terms with the sudden loss after the happy occasion. Instead of accepting the fate that my late uncle was already nearing 80s and probably time to leave the earth. The other members of the family chose to point fingers at the bride for bringing bad luck and disaster to family by marrying my cousin. The poor bride has lived with this nonsense accusations for so many years.

VERDICT: I checked the Chinese calendar after the uncle's funeral. The wedding date chosen was the worst day in the whole calendar and would bring death or disaster to the married couple. So it did happen. Period.



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So I requested for no birthday celebrations this year but my family insisted just to eat a cake during our usual family dinner with our old man at home. That was fine. Just eat the Pavlova Cake baked by my sister and no candles.



There was a pavlova cake by my sister and a cheese cake by her well known chef friend FATBOY's in Damansara Heights. Insert is a small photo of my family at her condo atop Mont Kiara. My sister would kill me if I posted her photo. She was that who & who's ex wife. The kids were missing in the photo as they are all studying in the universities of York, Reading and Surrey. The mood was solemn too as my mum was watching us from above.




My wife and I ate a simple Yee Sang for dinner at the vegetarian restaurant. It was delicious!
This cute photo was taken by her.

I won't be celebrating CNY this year and didn't send any CNY cards to anyone. Thank you for all the cards from bloggers and silent readers. BTW I have moved house and only 2 Taiping bloggers knew that old address. (I hope they didn;t send any cards!)


We will be away to Borobudur and Japan during the Chinese New Year holidays instead.


Have fun guys!


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Comments

  1. Belated happy birthday Twilight man!
    PS: I've tried Fat Boy's Bake's cake, it was really delicious :)

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    1. Thanks for your kind greetings!
      I know you have good taste when food and servings are concerned! This chef seems to cater for niche market only.

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  2. Good afternoon TM... The weather here is so hot...

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    1. I was roasting last night at 33 DEGREES CELCIUS!!!! Crazy!

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  3. Happy birthday Anay!

    Even if it's small due to the mourning period, it's the thought that counts too right? :)

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    1. Thanks for your kind greetings!
      Yes the thought that counts. Small makan okay but not too meriah lah. LOL

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    1. She would cook and bake anything under the sun because we are her guinea pigs! LOL

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  5. Have fun in Indonesia and Japan!

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  6. Happy Birthday TM and wish you have lots of fun during your CNY holidays.

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  7. I got send to you CNY card leh. Office address I think.

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  8. Nice bake of Pavlova from your sister. Happy Birthday again TM.

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    1. I think your cakes always looked better and tastier!
      Someone told my sister her cake looked like dropped on the floor!

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  9. How sweet! Your family is sweet to celebrate with you with such tempting cakes... and you look so sweet and cute in your quiet celebration with your wife... Have a sweet holiday, Mr. and Mrs. TM!!

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    1. We are blessed when we have caring and loving families. Just like you, everyone admires all your kids and loving friends!

      Thanks for your wishes.

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  10. OMG! Anay, I have sent both Christmas and CNY card to your old address. You moved house again ah? Happy Birthday to dearest Anay.

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    1. Oh No!!! Veli soli! Veli Soli! I moved out very fast after my mum passed away and didn;t inform anyone. Then when I posted this, I remember only you and Yvonne had that address while others mail to my office. Safer that way. Ampun Tuanku permaisuri!! LOL

      Thanks for your kind greetings!

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    2. Noted,Anay. I will send to your office address after I ask from someone, wokay! I agree with you that we ought to believe in some Chinese taboo, such as choosing a good wedding date, avoid big celebration during mourning period and etc. Better safe than sorry la!

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  11. Blessed birthday to you. As one getting older, prefer to have a simple celebration with the loved ones.

    Ohh...you heading to Japan again. Can build a second home there la.

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    1. Thanks for your kind greetings!

      When you visit Japan this year with HB (Handsome Boy) you will want to go again and again. Trust me! LOL

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  12. i guess as long as you are with your loved ones, it actually doesn't matter how your birthday is spent.. we don't always have to have high celebration on birthdays, if we are spending a bomb on food and waste the leftovers, it would be even more meaningful to actually donate the food to those in need.. that would probably double your credit for doing so??

    ** this idea is inspired by Anay and Letchumy's deed on helping the homeless

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    1. You are so wise about food wastage which we all often saw at weddings and big birthday bash. Better celebrate with homeless people and no wastage but abundance of happiness for all.

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  13. okay, i am not going to wish you anything here because it was 4 days ago and i actually have done that already, hope you like my message that comes with your favorite lady in the image, wakakakakaka!! so Letchumy took a "cute" photo of the "cute" you when you were having yee sang.. she addresses you as TM ke?? haha, how funny~~ :p

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    1. Tak payah wish me again la. Of course she calls me daaaarlingggs but I changed it to TM dei.

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  14. that pavlova actually looks very lovely dei, your b**** sister is a very good cook!! i love all the fruits and berries she used, i think they balance up the sweetness of the whole thing huh?? and the other cheesecake with a generous layer of premium macadamia nuts on top, aiyoyo, looks so sinful.. i love both of them!!! maybe Letchumy wanna bake me one on my birthday later, wakakakakakaka!!! my CB mouth, yeah, i know you said that~~ :D

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    1. It was the first time she baked here for us as she has been doing all kinds of cooking and baking in England. I loved what I ate and still have them in my fridge. I would slowly eat them all. Yums!

      I still have half that cheesecake with macadamia nuts that were so huge like marbles! Want some??

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  15. I sent a birthday greeting to your FB account but there was no answer back. I checked the other account and you answered them all, so sad lah! Anyway, belated happy birthday my friend and just like you, I did not do a great big celebration but a quiet one, where I was even dragged to be in it, because of the mourning period. Safe travels!

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    1. Thanks for your kind greetings!
      Hey sorry about my FB problem, I remember 3 friends include you sent me greetings. I searched it many times using mobile and PC but could not locate them!! Gasp! Sigh! Help Me!

      Thanks for your kind greetings again.

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    2. No problem, I can resend through your FB account or Messenger. Have a great day!

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  16. Happy birthday Anay, many happy returns and Buddha bless your life

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  17. Can see from your photo that you had a good birthday even without any celebration.

    Just one question, does the chinese calendar only apply to chinese or does it apply to everyone on earth as in if a native American wants to get married on a good day with no one dying immediately after his wedding, he also needs to consult the Chinese calendar?

    Sometimes very old people hang on by a thread to life just because they want to see a happy occasion happening so after the happy occasion then they are happy and so will let go and so will die immediately after the happy occasion. Too bad no one understands this and the poor bride gets the blame by nosy bzbody people.

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    1. Good question you have, always!
      This ancient universal calculations by Chinese geomancers and astrologers dated thousand years ago! How precise and accurate they could tell which days were full moons without mistake till now? They knew that the moon influenced the ocean and water tides. They could calculate the flow of energy and chi from different directions too. We cannot see the hot and cold air but we can feel them. We also cannot see the good and bad luck but we can feel them too. Whatever we humans could not see, does not mean they don;t exists. So better be safe than sorry, it is beneficial to avoid certain misfortunes as not all bad lucks are fated on us sometimes.

      Many times, a mourner might attend big functions but nothing happened because they was no conflicts between the guests and the mourner. It dawned upon me like a mourner has the strong cords linked to the death of someone important, hence they should not drag it along to auspicious occasions to spark disasters. Hope my explanation helps somewhere.

      I am always talking these subjects with friends often as I could rant on and on. SK has been my faithful listener. LOL

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    2. Oh yes, I forgot to answer. The auspicious dates are applied to all human beings of all races. I have come across several psychics who are Malays, Thai and Mat Salleh who are strong believers in such dates for everything.

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    3. Thank you for your detailed reply. Do you mean they also consult the Chinese calendars for auspicious dates or they have their own auspicious dates calendars? If yes, are those dates the same?

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    4. As far as I know, these books are only available in Chinese and almost impossible to translate them so easily. I guess those who believe could easily seek help through Chinese friends. These days many bridal studios and wedding material shops even have simple services to choose good dates which they had done prior checkings.

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    5. Too bad, doctors do not allow patients to select auspicious dates to have operations/surgeries. Surgeons will only say, those are the only available slots I have, take it or leave it or go to another surgeon.

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  18. Here's wishing you a Happy Birthday. Better late than Never. May you always have a kind heart and be blessed.

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    1. Thanks for your kind greetings! I will always remember to be kinder to everyone.... ha ha

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  19. Anay looked so cute in the last photo, or trying to act cute? Hee hee

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    1. I look exactly like this. Ask SK Thambee lah as he saw me the most. Wakakakaka

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  20. Happy Birthday, TM! I too prefer a quiet celebration. Ah, I see your sister bakes! Her Pahlova Cakes looks so tempting with all those juicy fruits. You look like a small kid in the last photo hee..hee...

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    1. Thanks for your kind greetings!
      I am always shy on birthdays but could not avoid the invitations. This year I had to be firm as mourning our parents are most important matter as written in Buddhism sutras.

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  21. I think it was like yesterday when I read Thambee made a surprise appearance at your birthday bash. How differently things can turn out to be within a year. Wish you have an enjoyable trip in... what? Japan again??? Kanneh so syok!!!

    But above all, I am more shocked at that Christian family. They refused to believe in all the "superstitious" stuff like choosing dates, yet when disaster struck they can blame the bride for bringing "suay". So "Christian"-like behavior, this. Staunch Christian indeed...

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    1. Spot on! I had to post this to share about relatives who claim not to be superstitious but still pointed fingers at the poor bride. Morons!

      Life is short and fate changes fast. So we better be nice and close with anyone while we still can.

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  22. Belated Happy Birthday!! MY birthdays are all quiet where I celebrated it with my family, that's it. This year was slightly special, as my colleagues hold a birthday lunch for me in Hard Rock cafe and got the entire cafe to sing a birthday song for me...hahahah..

    It's ok to have quiet birthdays as long as you celebrated it with your loved ones! :)

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    1. Thanks for your kind wishes! You are often surrounded by so many friends nowadays from jogging to eating! So popular lah you!

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  23. Happy Birthday Anay. Sorry I missed your birthday this year. I stll recall we all meet up that year and you cried... LOL


    wah so big plate of yee sang both of you can finish eating ya

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  24. Happy belated birthday! :)

    Yeah, my sister was like that too. They're Christians so they didn't choose an "auspicious" date, just got married to their convenience. Some aunts thought it was strange, but hey, it's their wedding.

    Yee sang for birthday! That's cool, I've had it 3 times this year dy. Good stuff.

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  25. Happy Birthday! You didn't mention your age :P

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  26. Here too people don’t celebrate events for a year, when one of the family members was missed…. Btw have a great trip and my best wishes to you :)

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