Thursday, July 14, 2016

We Have To Be Mindful

On the first day of Hari Raya Holidays, my close friend visited me from Penang together with his family. They wanted to visit my father in the hospital besides relaxing in KL for a short break. My friend parked his car at the visitor's parking lot inside our gated community area. I went to receive his family and we started chatting as we walked. I was excited to show him some nice crawling plants hanging down when I became distracted with my steps. I walked over the covered drain's grills and missed it. I fell right forward into the drain with one right leg inside while I balanced squatting on the left leg. My leg and hands bruised with so much blood & scratches. My bones ached too and I was limping for 3 days.



 
 This was a good lessons for me To Be Mindful Always!


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I wish to thank everyone for all the kind wishes for my father to recover. Your concern and all the many blog comments and emails besides the 'private messages' really moved me. You all are so caring and wonderful friends! I should update you honestly, on my father's current situation. He was first admitted after getting high fever which resulted from his lung infections. Doctor found out that his dementia caused him to choke and clog the food inside his lungs. He had to be moved from ICU to CCU and HDU for several weeks and the bill was enough to buy a brand new car. We discharged him to be placed in a nursing home where the nurses could care for him 24/7 while he was recuperating. His plentidful phlegm was clogging his throat and lungs all the time, so they had to do machine suctions every 2-3 hours! That was really a pain and discomfort for my old man who always wrestled with the nurses as his memory loss could not tell him what was going on. He just felt being hurt and assaulted in his throat by masked nurses who looked like terrorists. After 4 days, he developed some lungs infection again and had to be readmitted to the same medical centre at Subang Jaya. This time he has MRSA which is a highly contagious bacterial issue and has to be confined inside a closed 'clean room' with both his hands tied to the bed! My tears would flow each time I had to see my poor father being tied to the bed so that he would not pull off all the tubes and wires on his body. This is so sad as he could not understand what has happened to him. Each time when he could recognize me or my siblings, it was just like winning a lottery prize. 




My Father & I.



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32 comments:

  1. Thanks for taking the time to update on your dad condition.. Hope he get better.. and you as well.

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  2. Thank you for your message that we have to be mindful all the time. I trust that you are walking ok now and your bruises have healed by now. I know you are tired and worry about your father but please sleep more and be extra careful. Take good care of your wife too as she must be worrying about your father too.

    Thank you for updating us about your father. I am so sad to hear that he has to be tied up in order for others to help him fight for his life. I pray that he recognises all of you whenever you all visit him so that he will not feel so frightened to be tied up.

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  3. Thanks for the update.... Stressful as you have to work, and also to the hospital to take care of your dad....

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  4. It's good to hear/read from you again. Glad your father is doing well. It's always stressful to care for our loved one but you please take care and be strong! God be with you and your family.

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  5. Aiyoh, jatuh longkang! Hope your dad will show some improvement.

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  6. Oh dear. So sorry to hear that your dad is still in hospital and you fell into the longkang pulak. Through it all, your humor is still intact and that is good. I hope your wound and bruises heal well and that your dad will eventually recover.

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  7. Ouch! Take care TM!

    Stay strong - both you and your family too.

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  8. Oh my, thank God yours are scratches and not fractured like mine. Yes, do be mindful but then accidents do happen no matter how careful at times. Anyway, hope all is well with you now, and also for your father. Hope he is recovering soon and will be discharged.

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  9. Ouch!! That's so painful! Hope you are better now.

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  10. Ouch! When I see your bruises, be more careful next time.

    And poor uncle, he must be very happy whenever he sees you visit him.

    Take care and hope your dad will recover very soon and you too

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  11. Shit.

    It is terrible enough to have a properly functioning old person fall sick and having to treat him. Ten times worse if he constantly cannot even remember that he is under treatment. I guess it is even worse than my grandma's case. She did not have dementia (in fact her brain was probably the only healthy organ when everything else failed), but she refused all the standard treatment. She constantly berated us for not letting her die and reincarnate as guan yin niang niang (sigh)...

    Good luck, man. And please stay safe yourself...

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  12. Finally, glad to hear something from you. Things happened, that's why must be careful and focus all the time and also why I tend to do things slowly, rather than getting things wrong and spend even more time to recover that.

    I totally understand your feeling, remember last time when my dad got into hospital, I also have the same feeling and refused to look at him, because before I even starring at his eyes, tears are almost rolling out from my eyes.

    Stay strong and take care!

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  13. Be safe always and a prayer for your dad's speedy recovery.

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  14. Very sorry to hear about the painful phases he’s going through... the hospital environment would freak out anybody. Hope he feels better soon and I sending my wishes to him and you – take care and get healed

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  15. TM, I am very sorry about that painful process your father had to go through.. Which sons/daughters can tahan seeing their parents go through such painful process right?
    It must be tough for you guys...

    I pray for uncle to recover in no time. You guys, please do take care, stay strong! Hugs~~

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  16. Like you, I injured myself while walking blindly. I was bleeding profusely & was left with an opened wound on my kneecap & finger. It has been few weeks already but I was told that it will take 18 - 24mths to heal completely. I'll have scars on both knees liao.......

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  17. ouch.... leg become oink oink leg liao. very lucky tak kena like claire. take care.

    hope your dad recovery will be smooth.

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  18. Jatuh ahh? Kesian.. Got buy numbers? Hope your dad faster recover.. I understand the feeling of staying in the hospital.. Hate that feeling, especially if baby is still very small, we can't leave the place for even a second..

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  19. So sorry to hear of the struggles you and your family must be going through right now. I know the feeling. Keep the faith and may God bless you with little miracles to help you get by.

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  20. Ouch....I guess you were very excited like a kid while chatting with your friend. Hopefully by now you are getting better.

    Wishing a smooth and speedy recovery for your dad.

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  22. Sorry to hear about your scratches. May the God bless your father for his speedy and painless recovery.

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  23. I feel very sorry for your father.There are not the words to perform soothing. You oneself, please be careful about your health, too

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  24. oh...sorry to hear about what your dad has gone thru and I really hope he recovers and get well again like before. And you too, stop being so clumsy and watch your steps. OK la.. get well soon too and rest.

    With that, I also want to remind myself as well as everyone that while walking, we should keep our phone and Fb away. It's too dangerous walking without noticing the surroundings especially banana peels on the floor....

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  25. Hope your legs are recovering well now and wishing a speedy recovery for your dad as well. Take care *hugs*

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  26. hope he gets well soon.
    btw, that shoe is nice. Is it bought from Thailand?

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  27. Oh my. You got a big scrape, and it looks painful. I hope it heals so quick. And hope your father gets well soon too.

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  28. Nice shoes! Hope your daddy recuperates soon.

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  29. I feel very sorry for you and your father.

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  31. Anay, I agree with you that we have to be mindful all the time regardless when and where.

    You stay strong and positive, Anay.

    My best regards to you and uncle.

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  32. So sorry about your dad. I didn't blog-hop for a long time. Luckily I saw yr post on facebook.

    My condolences again to you and your family.

    How's your leg now? Hope you are recovering fast.

    Take care and be careful of your steps.

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