Saturday, May 15, 2021

Farewell My 2 Friends

Today is a very sad and horrible day for me. I would never wish for it to happen to anyone else. I woke up unexpectedly at 5am and looked at my phone. It was not my norm to wake up that early and look at my phone other than going to toilet. I was horrified to get a text from a Japanese college friend whom I met in US, informing me that another Japanese lady named Junko Ueda had passed away. It was an expected news as she was suffering from breast cancer 2 years ago but the reality sank and still hit me eventually. I thought her treatment had healed after the breast surgery and she had a wish to visit me in Malaysia. I tried so hard to get back to sleep again. Junko's cancer had spread to her brains and many cancerous lumps sprouted out to her scalp. She died at home with her 2 young children and estranged hubby beside. 


This photo of myself with Yamada Maki Oravets and Junko Ueda during the summer after shopping for some grocery. The Chevrolet Camaro Sports car belonged to Maki who was a hell driver like Fast & Furious star. Both of them married to American men later which was a little mistake.


The whole morning my mind was still reeling with a tinge of little sadness for Junko as I felt that she had suffered a lot since her first failed marriage in Tokyo. She went to US to pursue her advertising studies like me but her conservative Samurai hubby objected sternly and threatened a divorce if she stepped out. Junko was a strong headed lady and still packed up her bags to study in the best advertising school in Pennsylvania. The hubby's lawyer sent a document of divorce papers to her in US to end their marriage. She had to self support herself with little savings and worked full time as a waitress for her school fees. When I became friends with her and all the Japanese guys in the college, Junko found solace and comfort to visit my apartment almost every night when she had finished her waitress job. She was happy to sit in my comfortable living room's wing chair to drink unlimited hot black coffee while smoking and laughing with my other Korean, Japanese and American friends. I felt very fortunate that I was sharing this luxurious duplex unit in the upscale area of Shadyside in Pittsburgh. Do you remember that my Korean roommate's father owned office buildings around Seoul's Gangnam swanky hub. So our apartment was always a welcoming place for all our Korean and Japanese friends that they could anytime stayover with abundance of food and cup cakes to eat. All prepared by yours truly. Ahem!



Junko and I posing outside my apartment at 443 South Graham Street, Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania where all the precious memories of fun and laughter continues to live on today.




It was like a heavenly fate's arrangement that my wife flew to Carnegie Mellon University for her milestone achievement to receive the only Master Trainer's GOLD certificate for Computational Thinking outside USA. That prestigious university is located in the same neighbourhood as my apartment. So I got the 2 Japanese friends to meet my wife and they happily posed the same way in front of another sports car belonging to the Fast & Furious Maki.



A few hours later, news broke out that my long time and close friend had lost the battle with Covid19 in the Penang hospital. It was like a heavy thunderbolt to hit my chest to know on the same day that both Junko and Michael Geh had passed away. 


 
Michael Geh's passing was announced across all the Malaysian newspapers as he was a very well respected figure by all the big property developers in Malaysia and overseas.



 
Michael Geh and I posed at the recent Property Awards Gala Night at the One World Hotel.




I was indeed very honoured when this high profile and Senor friend invited me out twice, to tea and dinner in Penang and KL. We had so much to talk as our long friendship dates back as far as both our parents were actually close family friends. He shared extensively about his religious beliefs and that spiritual topic eventually led on, till he insisted to meet up with my wife. He wanted to meet her and hear more about the spiritual dimensions and also his strong interests in hypnotherapy. We met up at The Oval, nearby my home and chatted for many hours. He was happy that he had found all the answers to his doubts and beliefs from my wife. We parted happily and he promised to meet us again on his next visit to KL. Did he know that was his farewell dinner treat for my wife and I?



Time and Tide Waits for No Man. 



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22 comments:

  1. Sorry to hear that. It is always painful to lose your friends.

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    1. Yes it is. Even when my wife's goldfish died, she cried...
      Good memories of the departed ones will live on and that's precious.

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  2. It is so true that "Time and Tide Waits for No Man" so instead of chasing wealth, just spend more time with loved ones which is why I quit my new job n chose early retirement. Pray that both your friends' souls are at peace now and are at where they want to be, wherever that is. You must be extremely down with these two sad news. These few days I have been feeling a deep sadness for our world with the middle east unrest for the holy ground and the never ending pandemic. All of us need to stay strong! 🙏😷Stay safe too. Nice memorable photos you have with both your late friends.

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    1. The news of 2 deaths on same day what quite difficult as they were so unexpected. I agree that the world's pandemic situation is making everyone gloomy and depressed. With the Gaza bombing added on, it is definitely making me sadder too.

      The sutra and Nostradamus predictions had written all the predictions that are happening now. It will last a long time.

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  3. So sad. Indeed live is so fragile but everything is in God's hands.

    God bless your friends' souls. They are now in better place.

    You take care, stay safe and together we can make it through this difficult and challenging time.

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    1. Thank you for your kind words. Please stay safe and healthy too. I think I better wear 2 layers of masks when I go out now.

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  4. Such sad news to hear of your two friends passing. May they rest in peace.

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    1. Namo Amituofo.... Hope they both will go to the Western Paradise.

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  5. It's always sad to lose friends and loved ones. May they rest in peace...and may you find solace in the lovely memories you had with them. Stay safe.

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    1. Yes. Losing any loved ones including pets are the saddest moments that time will take a long time to heal.

      Stay safe EWEW.

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  6. So sad. It's always a pain to lose friends and loved ones. I am sure they will still stay fondly in your heart with all the memories. May they rest in peace.

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    1. Yes I have lost too many loved ones and friends along the way. I am learning to live with no attachment and to move on. It is not healthy to linger too much to old memories. I have too much memories and my karma baggage will be too heavy. LOLOL

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  7. Friends of our age started to pass. We must take good care of ourselves.

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    1. What is the age to start dying? My friends have start departing since early 20s. My grandfather always told me that coffins are for dead people and not old people. What a wise statement.

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  8. Sorry to hear that, there are so many deaths these days, and one message really hit when it mentioned that 100 lives were lost in a matter of 3 days from Covid. 100 is a lot in our country to die of covid just in a few days!

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    1. Malaysia is always ahead in news for no good reasons. 100 lives gone in 3 days is too much!! Better increase my face masks to 3 layers now.

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  9. Sorry to hear about the sad news and may they rest in peace.

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  10. Such a sad news of 2 friends passing....

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    1. Yes it was sad. I cringe and shudder to think that more deaths will happen with the pandemic getting out of control now.

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  11. Sorry to hear that you miss two of your friends, and you guys are really cool and seemed rock during the college days.

    Take care my friend.

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